Beat the Back to School Blues

Starting out at a new school, many pupils may not know many other students. Maybe their friends from primary school are going to different secondary schools and even if they do know other pupils they might feel nervous that they don’t know any of the older pupils.

This can lead to concerns about how they are going to make friends among this sea of unknown faces. Most secondary schools now hold new pupil orientation sessions before school term actually starts. These are helpful not only because they give pupils the chance to learn their way around the building and get to meet some of the teachers, but they also get to meet fellow pupils. That way on their first day of school new pupils may already recognize a few familiar faces.

When talking to people at orientation sessions, new pupils find that a lot of them are feeling the same way. They’re all new to the school and don’t know what to expect. Talking about a common concern with fellow classmates can spark new friendships.

Tips for making friends:

• Smile, introduce yourself and ask questions
• Say to myself ‘this person is a bit left out, shall I ask them…..’
• If they are lonely, go ask them if they want to play.
• If they tell you to go away, say ‘ok then, I’ll be over here if you want me.’
• Write all your friends down on a piece of paper and 1 reason why they are a good friend.
• There will be other people in your tutor group who are going to the same lessons as you, so stick with them.

Anti-bullying advice:

• Bullying affects lots of young people and happens in many schools but it’s the way it’s dealt with which makes the difference between life being tolerable and a misery for many.
• Bullying can happen anywhere: at school, travelling to and from school, in sporting teams, between neighbours or in the workplace.